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My Soul Poked Me in the Ass!

Cassandra Rae — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:11:51 +0000

I have conversations with my Soul. It’s where I get all of my rock star ideas from. This morning as I sat down on my comfy pillows in the Creativity Room I ran across the following convo in my journal from 10/14/09. It was one of those mornings when fear was running amok in my mind…

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Me: Here is what fear is saying to me, ‘People don’t want this. You’ll be left out to die. You won’t get anywhere. You’ll just spin your wheels to no avail. You’ll always be mediocre waiting to make it big.’

Soul: What are you going to do with that?

Me: I don’t know. I want to step into knowing I can create anything but I don’t feel it’s true.

Soul: That’s the thing. You have to take the step before you know it’s true to discover and experience its truth.

Me: That sucks.

Soul: Yes, and your point is?

Me: I don’t want to.

Soul: Well then go back to your victimhood and leave me alone!

Me: Ouch.

Soul: Yes, ouch. You are like this super powerful creator and you want to crawl back under the hood of self-pity? How pathetic is that?

Me: Hey, my Soul wouldn’t say that to me!

Soul: Really now? I just did. Because you need to hear the truth. It is pathetic when you give up your creative power and retire to mediocrity. Especially when someone has as much talent as you have. You know that crazy lady you met recently? Well, she’s more successful than you because she’s out there doing it and living it.

Me: Double ouch!

Soul: Excellent! If a poke in the ass is what you need, then I’m going to give it to you.

Me: Okay. I guess.

Soul: You guess? You guess? Oy! Stop guessing and put something on the line. Make a claim. Take a risk. Really put it on the line. The only way you’ll ever find out is if you risk it all.

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I admit that part of me feels like a freak for sharing my Soul Convos with you. But, the message is too powerful to hold back. I’m curious now: is your Soul asking you to take a risk, to put yourself out there, or to stake your own claim? I’d love to hear about it!

Your Blogging Topic
Share what your soul, gut, or intuition is asking you to share.

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Are you afraid of sharing too much?

Cassandra Rae — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:08:40 +0000

One of my own fears that I’ve been bumping up against lately is the fear of sharing too much information. In other words, if I simply give away everything on my blog, then people won’t hire me because they can just read it here. It’s kind of like that old saying about if you give away the cow for free, then why would people buy the milk. Or something like that! But, this fear runs exactly opposite of one of my core beliefs: the more I share, the more I will attract new clients.

But, the fear is a logical, rational fear. How the heck do I move past it?

Oh! Another fear just popped up and said, “Shouldn’t the ‘Simply Fearless Coach’ know how to move past all fears?” Oy! That pesky voice of fear is filled with such disdain and it makes me feel so small.

But, it also triggers another part of me that responds with such loving kindness and understanding. This voice says, “No, the Simply Fearless Coach shouldn’t know everything. She is willing to expose, express, and explore all fears which is what makes her Simply Fearless.”

Oh yeah! Just the fact that I’m typing out this dialogue is fearless! I feel so much better now that I’ve listened to and responded to the fear. It’s so liberating to be reminded who I am and what I stand for. When that voice of fear comes up it’s like half my heart flies out the window!

Okay, this blog post has taken on a life of its own! Back to the original topic of sharing too much. Part of me is still afraid of giving away everything and making no money, but here is what my Soul told me this morning:

“You believe that if you share everything that you’ll make nothing. But, it is the opposite. The more you share of our powerful message, the more clients you’ll have.”

Oy! Why? Why? Why does my Soul have to challenge and stretch me like this?

Here’s my commitment: I’m going to trust that if I allow the information to flow from within me that the clients will also flow. I will write & share everything that comes up. I will practice this for one week and see how it goes. If I need to switch up my business practice, then I will. But, one week is not going to ruin my business. I’m so excited now to see what cool information unfolds this week! Oh I feel so free now. Aaahhh…back to that place of inner peace and trust.

Your Blogging Topic
How do you decide how much to share with your clients?

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Rock Out Your 30 Second Intro

Cassandra Rae — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:16:46 +0000

Earlier this week I went to a networking luncheon and I came up with a new 30 second intro that highlighted 3 ways to tell if you are getting in your own way and here they are:

You keep saying things like, “I’ll get to that next week,” and you don’t,
You spend way too much time writing for your blog or newsletter, and
You’re waiting to fully launch your biz until you get it perfect.

Oh you should have heard all the ladies at the event moan and groan as they heard this list because we’ve all fallen prey to one or more or all of the above!

But, check this out. I ended my intro by saying, “If you know a FEMpreneneur who’s getting in her own way, then please give her my card for a free 30 minute coaching session.”

Woohoo! It was probably one of my best and most concise introductions. So if you are crafting your own 30 second introduction keep these tips in mind:

Write out what you’re going to say ahead of time.
Say it out loud until it’s comfortable.
Highlight 3 reasons why a potential client would check you out.
Have an awesome business card to pass around that people want to keep.

I hope these help. Feel free to post your 30 second intro as a comment for all of us to check out.

Oh, and if you are getting in your own way, then please don’t hesitate to book your free 30 minute coaching session with me! I’d love to connect with you.

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Your Blogging Topic
Highlight 3 problems your clients or customers are facing.

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Photo of the Day

My cat Poppy says, “Get out of your own way!” Yeah, it’s easy for her to say. All she has to do is eat, nap, and occasionally knock the dog around a little!

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Need Your Help With My Cocktail Pitch

Cassandra Rae — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 17:03:28 +0000

I went to a party last night and was asked twice by people I didn’t know, “So what do you do?”

Both times I wasn’t completely satisfied with my answer. The cool thing about it was that I switched it up the second time knowing that after the first time I wanted to do it differently. Good for me for taking action in the now.

And I could use some improvement in this area. So this morning on my run I came up with an answer when people ask me what I do. Here it is:

I work with people who know there is something missing in their life. Some of them know exactly what it is and they come to me with a very specific goal. Others come to me and have no clue what that missing link is. Either way, we process the fear and feelings that are holding them back and we build the courage and confidence to really rock out their life!

What do you think? I’m really nervous about putting this out there – so please be gentle with me – but I know that it will help me to ask for and receive your help. Please post a comment or send me an email and let me know how it sounds. What does it feel like? Does it leave you with questions? If so, what are they?

Thank you so much!

3 Simple Ways for Parents and Teens to Connect

Cassandra Rae — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 23:09:35 +0000

Connecting during the teen years is one of the biggest challenges for teens and parents alike. There are heightened emotions, power struggles, conflicting values, hectic schedules, and technology barriers. But, staying connected is also one of the most important factors. Here are three simple ways you can connect with your teen:

Simple Way #1: Share Something about Yourself
Get the ball rolling in your connection by sharing something about yourself with your teen. You don´t need to share your deepest, darkest secret (in fact, I advise you against it), but please do share something real. You are leading the way in the depth of your connection and believe me, your teen knows when you are being real. You can talk about something that happened at work, a story you heard on the radio, or something you read on the front page of Yahoo (this is a great way to find an interesting topic, by the way!). But, be sure to include how you feel about it or what your thoughts are – something that´s specific to you. Many parents expect their teens to open up without reciprocating. It simply doesn´t work. It´s very important to give what you want to receive in your relationship with your teen. Relationships are two-way streets…even parent/teen ones.

Simple Way #2: Ask an Open Ended Question
Keep the ball rolling in your connection by following up with a thought provoking and interesting question like, “What was the best or worst part of your day?” Simply avoid the standards like, “How are you?” and “How was your day?” You will get one-word answers like “fine” and “boring”. And remember, if you ask a yes or no question, then you will get a yes or no answer and nothing more. Get creative and curious. Dare I say, even playful with your questions!

Simple Way #3: Be Quiet and Listen
Okay, this is quite possibly the most challenging Simple Way because we parents love to give advice, offer solutions, and just plain old talk! But, this is not the time to talk. This is the time to listen. Listening with an open mind and heart is one of the most respectful things you can do for your teen. And remember, that what your teen is sharing is about her and not you. She has a life to figure out and the less you feel inclined to fix her, the more she will open up. Needing to fix is actually a form of judgment, which will break a connection in an instant. Just being available to listen is one of the biggest motivators to inspire your teen to come to you and ask for support, help, or advice.

Well, Parents, I know that staying connected is challenging. But, it´s also vital to the health of your relationship along with your sanity! My hope is that it also now feels a bit simpler. Happy Parenting!

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Conflict at Work: What do you do?

Cassandra Rae — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 00:21:09 +0000

Isn’t it crazy how confusing and frightening conflict at work can be? Maybe that’s because there is a lot at stake: your reputation, future assignments, and maybe even your job itself. Plus, if you are the main income provider at home, then you might even feel like your personal life is on the line too. Now that’s a lot.

Which is why I am thrilled to invite you to this FREE teleclass:

7 Simple Ways to Reconnect Teleclass
led by Coach Cassandra Rae
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
11:30am – 1:00pm Pacific Standard Time
Cost: FREE {long distance charges may apply}

In this 90 minute teleclass I share my personal process for how I resolve conflicts and use them to deepen my relationships – personal and professional alike. It’s the perfect tool to use in a work situation where you can be afraid of taking things too personal, but then they feel personal. You don’t want to be labeled a problem, yet you want to speak up for yourself while making things better. Yeah, this class will address all of that! So dedicate a lunch hour to yourself and join us where you will:

Learn how to use disagreements as a way to deepen your connection
Receive a worksheet that you can use any time you’d like to gain clarity and confidence to move forward in resolving conflict with anyone (including parts of yourself)
Connect with like-hearted people who champion the same goal

This 90 minute teleclass is perfect for men and women who are:

ready to invest in themselves and their relationships
willing to receive support and encouragement
open to learning new perspectives and skills

Registration Required
To register simply enter your name and email address below. Once you click on “Register” you will receive an email to verify your intent to participate. After you click through the link in the verification message, you will receive a confirmation email with the class materials and call-in details. If you do not receive the confirmation email within 24 hours of registration, then please email me at Cassandra@SimplyFearless.com or call me at 408.206.1662. I look forward to connecting with you!


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